I was told today by a guy on my hall that he has a problem with everything I say because I'm an opinionated religious person. Yes, I am opinionated. Yes, I am religious. But actions speak louder than words, and I find people give you more credit when you live the life instead of announce and claim you do. I am not the type that condemns people or doesn't listen to the other side of the argument. I've been on the other side.
I was pretty upset about this, and told him so. I've given him more second chances than I can count. I've tried so hard to be the best I can be, even with the pressure to just give up given how hard it is to deal with him. He's an asshole. There isn't a nicer way to put it. Most people on the hall just ignore him or treat him sub par to everyone else. I try not to, I really do. I approach the situation as if he's just one of the guys on the hall I hang out with.
He proceeded to pretty much insult me and tell me that I'm wrong about everything and anything. He doesn't respect me because to him, I'm stupid. He said some truthful things in the mix of insults, things I know I have a problem with or that people often misconstrue, such as my teasing. I left the room with tears in my eye. I've never felt that way when talking to someone my own age. Authority figures, and my ex, yes. But never has someone my own age said something to my face that's upset me on the spot like that. I've honestly never felt so discriminated against, and you'd think being a female I'd have run into something harsher by now?
So my RA caught wind of it and asked me if I'd be willing to go to university counseling (with her and this guy). She said I would most likely be the best person to go out of our hall for various reasons. At first I was against it, but I thought about it and said yes. I think it could help him? It might actually get him to listen to me? Probably not though. Perhaps just getting him in there will be enough for them to notice that he has some serious anger and social issues? Maybe nothing will come out of it? But I won't know unless I at least give it a session or two.
